February 14, 2024 4:03 pm

Renae M. Dupuis
Posted in Capacity and Compassion Expansion, Culture Shift, Resources  on February 14, 2024 ,  by  Renae M. Dupuis

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It might surprise you to know that some days, I have an imaginary raincloud over my head. 

Why am I sharing this with you?

Because yesterday was one of those days, and in the midst of it all, I realized something that might help someone else. 

As you know, TraumaWise is all about equipping people who are ready to make changes to their systems through healthy relationship. 

The thing about systems is that when they work well, we don’t think much about them. When they are functioning, we don’t experience friction or breakdowns. But when they don’t work….well, we tend to feel that pretty keenly. Even if we don’t think of it as a system issue, we know that something is not working.

I had a live webinar scheduled yesterday at 10 am, and I had tested my equipment the night before, had my slides all ready to go, and was so excited to talk about how to help people in a way that actually helps

I did my morning routine, got everything ready, and logged in. 

Except, I couldn’t.

For about 3 hours, I couldn’t get my computer to stay connected to the internet or to pretty much do anything it was supposed to. I’m fairly tech-savvy, but it got kind of ridiculous over here. I did ALL the things (yes, Earl, I restarted everything at least twice – thanks for checking). I called the interweb people. I took a break. I tried my hotspot. 

In an effort to be vulnerable here (and it is often an effort), I admit I had some tears. 

My system was broken – I felt stuck and kind of hopeless for a while. 

So, I did what any reasonable person would and asked my bestie to text me gifs to make me laugh. And it worked. The clouds lifted, and I didn’t feel as stuck. I thought of a possible solution and began to put a plan in place.

My friend co-regulated me, which helped me feel connected and safe; I could finally access my internal wisdom.

This is what it is all about, friends. We need felt safety, connection, and co-regulation in order to overcome the fog of fear, hopelessness, and the effects of trauma. 

If you have been trying to figure out how TraumaWise intersects with your work and life, I want you to know that wherever you are on your journey of bringing hope, community, and sustainability to your spaces and places, we’re here to support and equip you.

You have a role to play in creating the environments that bring people together to access their wisdom and heal systems that aren’t working.

When you are ready to take your next step, please let us know, and we’ll be right there with you!

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